The Refinement Path

10 Rhythms to Healing and Transforming After Relationship Loss

The grief and pain of losing a committed relationship can be excruciating and terrifying, confusing and overwhelming. It can feel like it will never pass.

When we enter into intimate relationship we merge and bond on so many levels - we become energetically intertwined, our nervous system becomes tuned to our partner, our rhythms and habits are created around the other, we get used to a certain physical presence.

When that relationship is severed we must detach and recalibrate our physical, energetic, mental and emotional self on deep levels. It can be incredibly disorienting, painful, unwanted, and challenging.

We need help when going through such a life changing experience.

I work with a system I’ve developed called The Refinement Path. I chose Refinement as the guiding word for the system because it’s about the ongoing refinement of your being as you consciously heal and transform from the loss of your relationship.

I chose rhythm as the guiding word for the 10 processes I use because it’s about connecting you to the pulse of healing, of your own heart and guiding spirit, and helping you find the notes and patterns of the new life awaiting you.

It’s a map and structure for setting yourself up to succeed in this terrible time of loss, and coming through it stronger than ever.

This system gives you lots of information and tools with which to navigate the loss journey, deal with the intensity of emotions, take care of yourself through it, process the past, reimagine the future, and set yourself up to come out of it better than when you started.

What makes my system different and effective is the inclusion of modalities that address the healing process on different levels. Every part of our being takes a hit with the shock and grief of a break up - emotions to be sure, but also our bodies, mind, and spirit suffer with the loss.

Because of that, in addition to the psychotherapeutic work I offer, the modalities I use include energy healing, sound therapy, plant medicines in different forms, flower and vibrational essences, chi gung exercises, guided meditations, and more.

These are powerful allies and tools that can help you process and heal more effectively, efficiently, and comprehensively than traditional therapies.

This is not a linear path. Grief and healing are not a linear process. More like a winding road, or spiral path where we take stock, double back, go deep, go high, catch our breath, and then move forward. Several times probably. And it takes as long as it takes.

This part is important…

This work is for those who feel that challenging, painful life experiences can be an opening, a calling even, for us to change and evolve into a better expression of ourself more able to create a life that reflects how we truly want to live.

Even though you may not have any comprehension as to why this is happening, or how anything good could possibly come of it, you trust that something will. You know you just need a map, a lot of tools, a lot of support, safe space to heal, encouragement, and good guidance…along with a good dose of courage, faith, and trust.

I know that terrible, awful life challenges can change us, change our lives, in ways we never imagined. I have experienced myself, and seen in clients, how, if we stay in the process of transformation and don’t give up, something new and better can and will come to us. I have seen it over and over again. It takes time, it takes work, but it’s possible. This work is for those who believe that too.

Below are links to find out more about the 10 Rhythm Path and what working with me would look like.