What is The Refinement Path and what are the

10 Rhythms?

Let’s start with the first Rhythm of The Refinement Path. This is the overarching premise of the Path - the Rhythm that holds the essence of the journey you will be on when you enter the process. It’s very simply:

CHANGING/TRANSFORMING

The Refinement Path operates under the understanding that any life trauma or tragedy can be a portal for transformation at very deep levels of the heart and soul, and that ultimately that can and will be a good thing. This is because the heart and soul will always seek to evolve and get as close to being whole, healthy, and self actualized as possible in this lifetime.

Sometimes that comes through positive, blissful, joyful experiences of transformation, and sometimes it happens through hardship and suffering. We can’t always know why, we just understand that it does, and we don’t usually have a say in which way transformation comes to us. It’s a complex process, because we are complex beings.

But what we do have a say in is how we move through hardship and suffering, and whether we allow it to transform us. Which means the path of refinement can only be walked with a basic belief in that premise, but also with consciousness and intention, willingness and trust, no small measure of faith, with good guides and strong resources.

So The Refinement Path is a calling - to those who resonate with that understanding and want what that path offers - refinement and transformation of heart, spirit, mind and body through loss and, yes, suffering.

It’s also an offering - of good guidance, important information, loving support, potent tools, wise resources, and practices that will benefit you for the rest of your life.

Here are the 10 Rhythms:

  1. CHANGE/TRANSFORMATION - Entering a process of evolution through deep loss

  2. RECKONING - Coming to terms with the truth of what is

  3. ACCEPTING/ALLOWING - Developing a healthy relationship with grief

  4. PRESENCING - Staying connected to yourself and your body

  5. PROTECTING - Creating sacred space to do the healing work

  6. SUMMONING - Calling in allies to help

  7. UNDERSTANDING - The work of knowing and truth

  8. RELEASING - The deeper process of letting go

  9. INVOKING - Calling in higher guidance to know your new path/life

  10. THRIVING - Following the guidance you receive, moving into a better life

    Essentially The Refinement Path sets you up to succeed in healing from your relationship loss in ways you couldn’t have imagined. It sets up structure when you feel like you’re coming apart, it gives you touchstones of strength when you feel weak, and helps you find your way when you feel lost. And ultimately guides you to the light at the end of this dark time, which is your beautiful new life.

    Some of these Rhythms will take longer than others, some you will be working with simultaneously, some you will move through more quickly, some will be pretty deep and intense, some will help you feel lighter, and all will make you stronger, healthier, more confident, and more connected.

    If you do the work.

    Throughout all of these you will be offered the opportunity to work with the tools I mentioned - energy and sound healing, plant medicines, guided meditations, aromatherapy, chi gung practices, flower essences, etc.

    I will be your facilitator and therapist through this process, along with anyone else you call on to be guidance and support for you through this journey.

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